Ever been at a pride parade, festival or event, and seen people wearing , sometimes on , and wondered what that was about? Ever had the faux pas of thinking that a collar was a new fashion accessary, and been treated to a detailed explanation of what the collar actually meant?
Collars can be the ultimate way for a couple in a BDSM relationship to express their commitment to the power dynamics of their relationship. Collars date back to the Roman Empire, when slaves were shackled in iron collars and controlled by their masters. While modern slaves in these sorts of relationships enter them by choice, once the collar is buckled or locked (yes, some of them do indeed come with padlocks), all bets are off, and anything that is within the agreed upon confines of the relationship can occur, at the dom’s command.
Leather collars aren’t just the same old boring black leather anymore; they come in all the colors of the rainbow, and can have embellishments like spikes, D-rings, and clasps. Lockable collars say something very specific about the transfer of power from the sub to the dominant holding the key; the sub can’t take off the collar without the dom’s permission.
Some couples just use collars around the house, or in the bedroom; others go out and about their daily tasks with the submissive wearing the collar, and the dominant holding a chain leash. In serious BDSM relationships, some couples choose to formalize their relationship with collaring ceremonies, which are considered within the community to be similar to a marriage ceremony.
Want to play around with your submissive side? See if your partner wants to add a leather collar to your leather toy collection. Remember that collars designed for animals are considered disrespectful; you want a collar designed by humans, for humans (no matter how much of an animal you are in bed). Also remember; consent and safe words aren’t just necessary, they’re sexy as hell.