Some people ruin a good thing for everyone. Grindr is a great example. The whole idea of Grindr is to meet guys who are nearby. But some people hide behind their mobile devices, without any consequences. The fact of the matter is, without good etiquette, it’s taken a great concept and they are sabotaging it into a social networking environment for lame people.
When Grindr first game out, it changed the way gay men could meet. Early adopters loved being able to see photos of other real guys nearby. It was like walking into a gay bar and seeing everyone, being able to have conversations, but from the convenience of wherever you and your mobile device happened to be. Mobile networking; genius!
But today, because so many lame guys can’t even get the basics right, they need to either adhere to these simple rules, or they should just delete their accounts.
- Get control over your profile picture. No one wants to see your cat, vacation photos, your dinner from two months ago, or a picture taken in the dark. That’s one thing you need to fix right away. People also need to learn how to crop photos and clean mirrors. If you’re taking a selfie, have the self-respect to at least clean the mirror first. Secondly, no one wants to see your toilet, bathroom accessories, or toiletries, so take that selfie from a good angle, after putting away everything off the counter.
- Address people. If someone walked up to you at a gay bar and said “Hi”, you would say “hi” right back. It’s the same on Grindr. Have some respect for others. Not responding to someone is incredibly rude, and if you did it in person you’d be the biggest asshole.
- Just because someone says hi to you, doesn’t automatically mean that they want to hook-up. If the conversation goes that way, which it typically does, cause c’mon, it’s Grindr, then just be polite and say “sorry, not interested”. At least let the person know. Don’t leave someone hanging. Better yet, just block them so you don’t damage their self-esteem and make them feel unattractive.
- Losing messages. Maybe in the early days of Grindr, it was an occasional issue that some messages were delayed in getting to you, but those bugs have long since been resolved. Telling someone that you didn’t get his message is just a bold face lie. Stop being a jackass.
- Be honest. We’re all on Grindr for on thing; to meet others in our area, mostly looking for sexual connections. While there are some guys who are legitimately looking for an LTR or dates, they should really be on PlentyOfFish, not Grindr.
- If someone says to you “sup”, and your response is “bored” or “relaxing”, it’s fair to say you’re looking for a hook-up, just not right now, or you’re not exactly what I’m looking for.
- Don’t be afraid to hit block. If someone isn’t your type or you’re not interested, just block the person. It’s that easy. No point in having people at your party that you’re not interested in.
- Fill in your stats. The biggest pet peeve by most Grindr users are guys that don’t fill out their entire profile, including the basic stats of age, height, weight, and ethnicity. A complete profile will help guys figure out if you’re what they are looking for, and more importantly, save everyone time if you’re not their type. Don’t be offended; you can’t be everyone’s type.
If you can’t make these adjustments to your Grindr profile, then please delete your profile and remove the app from your smartphone. You don’t belong.